IVF Class

My IM and I took IVF class yesterday at the center. Basically it was a class on all the medications I'll be taking and how the transfer will work. Whew. It's a really long process, or it seems so to me. With my two pregnancies it happened so quickly, and this will take so long, it seems weird. But that's the way it goes . . . the nurse did make it all seem very clear and easy to follow. The amount of medications I'll have to keep track of is daunting, but I'm sure my husband will help me out, as well as my IM. It looks like it will be at least 2 months before I'm preggers, but as long as it happens by June/July I'll be happy. I just don't want another baby due in the summer! I found out I'll be on bed rest after the embryo transfer, so I had to work that out with my husband, but he was very flexible (as always!) so that was pretty easy to figure out. Now I just have to have my saline uterus test and we'll be ready to go.

I'm kind of nervous about negotiating the contract, most surrogates say that's the hardest part. I want to stand firm for what I want, and I find myself wanting to be generous and offer what I don't want to the IPs. My husband is not much help with this, since he feels we shouldn't really be charging money at all for an act that should be an act of kindness. I'm trying to find a middle ground to fall in, where its still kindness, but not something that will be so inconvenient to me I get frustrated. Childcare is the big issue I'm running into. How much do I hold the IPs responsible for? Sometimes I think I should be responsible for all of it, but then I think that's alot of doctor visits! *sigh* I'm kind of trying to back off from it, since we still have a test to get through. After the test maybe I'll be able to hammer out what I want more clearly.

A funny moment was the discussion of multiples. I don't want to carry multiples, but I don't feel nearly as strong about it as Lori does. She is very clear on only wanting ONE baby. LOL The center doesn't reduce past twins, and they want to implant more than one embryo, so she's arguing with policy a little. I have a feeling she'll get her way, she's very firm (not in a mean way, just in a not back down way).

So now its all a waiting game . . .ho hum ho hum